A passing tradition of family and holiday feasts

2024 Author: Seth Attwood | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 15:55

In my childhood, big feasts happened very often. Relatives and friends gathered at the table every holiday. There were always not enough chairs, they were sometimes borrowed from neighbors or simply put a board on two stools. It turned out to be an impromptu shop. Of course, my parents also had such special boards. But the feasts themselves, leaving, or rather, are a thing of the past.

In some families, there are still women who are able to gather a large family around them. Prepare and bake a lot of tasty things. But there are fewer of them, and young people no longer want to spend a whole day (and sometimes two) cooking and cleaning. This tradition is gradually disappearing, at least in big cities.

I, too, began to notice for a long time that I did not want to celebrate my birthday noisily. Now, usually, we go to the family in a cafe or just have a festive family dinner. But I grew up in a family where any birthday was celebrated with a feast with a large number of guests. I know I’m not alone in not wanting to celebrate. Many people also refuse to celebrate this day especially.

Even with my friends, I now mostly prefer to communicate by walking in the park or sitting in a cafe. Everyone has children at home, worries, and so you communicate and relax.

In fact, large feasts to which all relatives are invited remained for only two reasons - a wedding and a commemoration. Although I already know several young couples who refused a large feast in favor of a down payment on a mortgage. Most likely, this is a perfectly reasonable decision.

We began to communicate less, the circle of relatives entering the house was greatly reduced. Basically, these are the closest ones. The culture of big feasts is becoming a childhood memory.

I don't think this trend is so bad. It largely reflects modern society. We are now more focused on ourselves, our children and our own problems. We are reluctant to let other people into our world, but other people also do not really want to be interested in our life. We also now have much more options for leisure activities than our grandmothers had.

But still, sometimes I remember how they sang songs at the table, how they told stories from life (many I still remember), how they laughed at the jokes, what delicious pies my grandmother had.