Pros of self-education

2024 Author: Seth Attwood | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 15:55

Instead, I slept enough, was vigorous and active for other activities that warm the soul: ballet, drawing, sports, music. Her life was not limited to passing the school curriculum and was filled with hobby activities without psychological and physical overload. And therefore, having tried herself in various activities, Lisa very early determined her priorities, choosing on her own both a specialty and a university in which she dreams of studying …

Self-education has formed in her personal responsibility for the results of her work. She does not need to be controlled, she independently plans her day, week, month, year. Not every adult knows the skills of such time management. And this skill grew out of her personal experience of trial and error leading her to success. She made her own timetable for her classes, consultations and exams, and did not live according to the schedule approved by the school. When I had to leave her in the middle of the 10th grade, I didn't even worry that she would cope with the task she set herself on her own.

But this is not the main thing … I was afraid that a child who does not go to school would not be socialized. When I asked what it was, those who frighten me couldn’t answer anything smarter than: “She will not learn to communicate” … Now I find it funny when I remember that sometimes I succumbed to these fears myself … It's hard to part with old cliches, social installations. The experience of liberation from them is the most invaluable in a series of our days.

Yes, my daughter does not know how and does not like to march in formation, to carry out with enthusiasm the imposed work, to obey orders, to pretend acceptance when she doesn’t feel it, does not strive for the crowd, does not understand the meaning of the words "socially useful work", does not chase after grades and approval, she is not ready to betray her interests for the sake of the interests of the collective … She is not afraid to make mistakes, blunders, since in her experience there is no fear of a deuce, which must be "corrected" at the cost of stress … She does not know how to curry favor for the sake of approval, therefore she easily says "no" … Her the inner child is free …

My daughter did not study for 11 years in a children's team of the same age and imposed by adults. Therefore, she has no fear of change, she easily adapts to any team of different ages, while maintaining her individuality. She is not arrogant or conceited, since she was not a hostage of a dozen years of school life, where the evaluation system rules. The assessment is not important for her, but the very process of mastering such knowledge, in which she sees the meaning for her further activities, is important. She soberly sees herself as she is, without powder, without falsehood, without being seduced by external appearances, focusing on an internal sense of the value of what is happening to her …

Liza is not corrupted by formalism: she is disgusted with doing business that is imposed on her, depicting a stormy and intense activity. She learned to create intrinsic motivation, which turns work into an easy and joyful activity. She knows from her own experience that what she loves cannot be hard work.

The daughter does not know what rush jobs are because of the disgustingly planned time. And in many schools it was planned not for the needs of children, but for the needs of teachers who question the possibility of a reasonable individual cycle of "rest-relaxation" … when you are already falling off your feet and there is no time for relaxation. She was her own mistress, and therefore she rested when she was tired, and not when external circumstances allowed her to do this without "remorse."

The system did not break it. She grew up with an inner freedom of choice. This formed her personal responsibility … Her ebullient activity, constant search for opportunities to realize her interests is not based on an infantile desire to throw responsibility for her mistakes on someone else. She sees potential for growth in mistakes … I studied this with her, as I myself was brought up within the framework of a very tough social system that does not give the right to make mistakes …

So, together with my daughter, layer by layer I removed layers of layers from myself for many decades, implicated in fears of being myself, psychological trauma from total control … freedom, would allow his children to develop at their own pace of self-realization, without traumatizing their nature … Such children are the basis of the future civilization of internally free people. They are able to respect themselves and others, value their own and others' individuality. They are unchained and do not seek to chain anyone to whom they attach. They have no pathological craving for suppression and control …

There are more and more such children. And it depends only on the parents whether their children will become "cogs of the state" or the creators of their own destiny … All the propaganda of the values of the school system is beneficial to the state, and not to the individual … Slaves are easier to manage …

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