About chastity

2024 Author: Seth Attwood | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 15:55

At the same time, often physical attraction prevails over psychological, and a young man or girl does not think about how much the chosen one is worthy of their feelings.

This period is fraught with many mistakes if one or the other is not smart enough not to succumb to purely physical attraction. The lower the intellect, the weaker the control of purely physical attraction, the less stable a young man is morally.

If a young man does not have a sufficiently developed sense of human dignity, inner conscientiousness, he will strive for relationships that would not bind him, would not be burdensome for him.

Instead of switching his love energy - sublimating to some kind of useful mental or physical labor, he will seek extramarital love. And the lower his moral foundations, the more force he will persuade his partner, often resorting to deception and false assurances of love and devotion.

However, it often happens that, assuring a girl of his love, the young man at that moment is not cunning. But later, he may become cold to his partner. Leaving her, he reasoned something like this: if she went so quickly to a love affair with him, then it means that she would easily cheat with another. The girl's first love leaves a deep mark, and she perceives the chilling of her friend as a tragedy.

Our folk traditions require young men and women to preserve chastity before marriage, and to marry only after a long and comprehensive acquaintance of the bride and groom. We have had a betrothal rite for centuries, which preceded the wedding almost a year before. During this year, young people were considered bride and groom and got to know each other better.

Extramarital love relationships have always been condemned.

Young people should be aware that, in addition to undermining moral foundations, irresponsible attitude towards marriage and family issues will become the source of a number of personal tragedies, and not only young men and women, but also a child that can be born from such a relationship. Worse, when the child is born to parents who have not yet left adolescence themselves and do not have the opportunity for upbringing. This can seriously affect the further life of the child, and for a woman it will sometimes lead to the loss of physical health.

Girls should understand that young people, who fly like moths from one flower to another, are poor in spirit, are not able to know the deep feelings that are possible only with mutual love based on respect, friendship and absolute honesty. Only egoists build their lives on deception, themselves incapable of great human happiness and, as a rule, bringing misfortune to others.

"A man of his own happiness is a blacksmith." Girls must remember that they can become victims of empty people. Before tying your destiny, you must try to get to know a person: his character, interests and especially intellect. For intelligence and vulgarity are incompatible. And if this is a stupid person, then it is absolutely hopeless, because:

The thunder of victories will echo

Beauty will fade

But the fool will never die anywhere.

A high, beautiful feeling is born only with altruistic love. It is characteristic of noble people, with high moral standards, with a consciousness of human dignity.

The greatest number of unsuccessful marriages is often associated precisely with the fact that in some men, physical attraction takes precedence over higher feelings and inner brakes, which are developed in a person the weaker, the less inclined he is to altruistic love, the lower his inner culture.

The strength of the psychological component of attraction depends on the degree of development of the psyche itself. The more developed it is, the stronger the emotional side of attraction. And in people with a well-developed psyche, the emotional component prevails over everything else. I must say that in women the power of psychoemotional factors is much more developed in this than in men, therefore, the unworthy behavior of a man greatly offends a woman, deeply hurts her for a long time.

All kinds of conflicts associated with ignoble deeds of a man leave a heavy mark on a woman's psyche, even disrupt her health, especially the nervous system. Neuroses, neurasthenia, up to mental disorders, occur in women more often than in men, precisely as a result of mental trauma caused by the rude behavior of a beloved man.

Delicacy, tact and even tenderness are required from a man if he, entering into marriage with his beloved woman, cannot at this time formalize him formally for one reason or another. A man should remember that a woman in this case is in a more powerless position than he, and the consequences of such love fall heavily on the shoulders of his girlfriend much more than his. In addition, we must not forget the purely moral factor, when public opinion, due to established traditions, makes high demands on people's behavior and often condemns a woman much more. And if a woman, neglecting everything, goes to an unregistered marriage, then this, as a rule, speaks of the strength of her feelings.

That is why a man is obliged to show a sense of great delicacy in a relationship with his beloved.

If such a marriage is built on the basis of trust and love, on the one hand, and at the same time on deception and base, animal feelings, on the other, then the question already goes beyond the limits of human relations between decent people. Deception in all cases is a sign of baseness and meanness.

An unfair attitude towards a woman characterizes a man as a person. For a man cannot be a scoundrel in one thing and noble in another. If there is human dignity in him, he will preserve it both at home and in the service, and at the conclusion of business contacts, and in love.