True Femininity and Masculinity Beget Fear

2024 Author: Seth Attwood | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 15:55

Every woman desperately wants a strong and confident man to be around. So that he can solve all the issues, so that behind him is like a stone wall. So that you can relax, not run anywhere and feel that you are being taken care of. But for some reason, when they see such a man, fear awakens inside.

My friend is now in a relationship with a strong man. He is responsible, courageous. Makes decisions. Fully provides. Immediately offered to marry, so that without a civil marriage. He wants children and constantly talks about it.

She had waited a long time. I dreamed. Had been in several relationships with boys who wanted nothing - no home, no family. And then the prince appeared. And she is afraid.

What is he afraid of? The fact that with him anyhow it will not work out. You have to be a Woman with him. Real. Or not at all. It will not be possible to build, control, torment with tantrums out of the blue. He will not obey, obey. He himself will make decisions - and she will need to make it. She will need to adjust to it. Learn to be gentle and loving. Bearing children, not commanding regiments. Change, grow. Fearfully.

How to live with a real man?

With a real man, you are often in a minefield. When you go astray, you lose touch with yourself. It becomes dangerous, scary. It's really impossible with him at random, there are mines around. You can only trust - and follow him toe to toe.

With the usual, everything is clear. You know an example scenario. He does not want to marry, powders his brains. Requires you to work. Can't stand your emotions. Is not responsible. You know what to expect. Ready for what you get. Although at the same time you can be in the illusion that everything will be different. Deep down, you already know where this is going. But you don’t admit it.

And with him you can not be very much a woman. In some ways a woman, in some ways a man. How convenient. You don't need to change a lot, work with your habits: get better. But you can't get that very female happiness with them. Although comfort is often more convenient for many, it is more profitable and desirable. Happiness is still a mythical character. And here everything is clear.

And men most often have the potential to develop - in one direction or the other. They are able to behave differently with different women. With someone they immediately take the position of a son, with someone they suddenly spread their wings - and become real men. And the difference between the first and second woman will be in which of them is afraid to be with a real man, and who is not.

If for a woman true masculinity, masculine energy is terrible and dangerous, she will try to curb the man, make him comfortable. To the detriment of my own dream of a strong shoulder next to me. Because a real man will make decisions that you don't like at first. Your ego will rebel when it decides for you with whom to communicate and with whom not. When he expects obedience from you, and not smart advice. He will be in some places tough, in some - even a little cruel.

One friend of mine has been living alone for a long time. And he doesn't want to change anything. All her talk about the fact that there are no real men smoothly flows into a tough position, which is more convenient alone. Because in her life there was such a man who was ready to take her under his wing, but there was a price for it. Moving to a different city. It was necessary to leave work and take care of children. And besides her two from his first marriage, he wanted a couple more. He did not give her the opportunity to control and build. He wanted to give her the life she dreamed of, but it was too scary. And then she decided that it was better to be alone. Decide for yourself and rely on yourself. There is little happiness in this. But it is comfortable and convenient.

A man can really change. Inside each one there is a masculine code that a woman either activates or suppresses. One and the same woman in different years can perform different functions for the same man. Rebuilding is difficult, but possible.

I remember this fear

I also remember this feeling of fear. When my future husband and I first met, we often met at lunch in the dining room. I already had a relationship - hopeless and meaningless. But I was under the illusion that something would definitely work out of them. I wanted care, protection, a strong shoulder. But none of this happened.

That day I came to the cafeteria at rush hour. All seats were taken. Except one. Next to Lesha. We didn't really like each other. And I sat there without pleasure. But as soon as I got into his field, for some reason my mind calmed down. We were separated by several centimeters of air. We just sat next to each other. And I felt that there was a man next to me. And a chill ran down my spine. Out of fear. Because I did not know how to communicate with such men.

At the same time, my husband was then still quite a boy - he loved to have fun, he had many friends, fans. Few took him seriously. And our colleagues thought that nothing would come of it. He will drown and throw. They just didn't know that he had a male core inside him. Male code. Which I felt that day. I did not manage to activate this code right away, and for some time I lived the way it was more convenient - everything myself, I was in command of my husband.

And when it suddenly happened - I again remembered this feeling of fear. After one fight, my husband changed passwords everywhere. We worked together, I helped him (although I controlled for the most part). And suddenly I can not enter either the mail, or the electronic wallet, anywhere. He changed all passwords, deprived me of the ability to control and dictate terms. The first emotion is fear. Then - anger. Then - resentment.

Then again the fear. And only two weeks later I was released. It took two weeks to accept, my life will not be the same. A Man has appeared in our house. In that day.

It was scary. Stay alone. To be left with nothing. Stay deceived. Believe and be disappointed. Stop being needed. Lose value. It was necessary to change - to look for oneself, to open up in a new way, to fill this emptiness with something. It was difficult not to close, not to get embittered, not to leave. But it worked out. Albeit with great difficulty.

Along with this severe limitation, new levels of freedom have emerged. Plenty of time to be with children. An opportunity not to worry about how and with what we will pay for the apartment. I just didn't see how much money we have now. Generally. I needed something - I asked. And more often than not, she received it. And he solved the problems himself, leaving me in the dark.

This freed up so much energy, so much time and opportunity that my website was born. I started writing. I have dreamed about this for a long time - and then there were resources. The male core of my husband gave me the opportunity to focus more closely on my female. This is how we grow further - together, synchronously. But you could have been frightened. And run away. At the very beginning, feeling threatened. Or on the day when he showed his masculine nature in this way. Choose convenience and get nothing …

But what about real women?

Many men also avoid feminine women. When the inner man has not matured inside them, who need to be near her. With her, too, it will not work out anyhow. If she is a woman, then she will not look forward to three jobs. She will knit, bake pies and be upset that there is no money. And it's scary with her. You have to be responsible, you have to be a man.

And the girls complain that there are no those who are ready to marry without a civil marriage. That there are no those who will take responsibility. It is not true. They are. There are just few of them. And when you become a woman in the full sense of the word, boys stop coming up to you. They start to fear you. And it seems that now nobody likes you. It is not true. It's just that your prince has not yet reached your kingdom. And there are very few other princes per square kilometer.

And so an interesting thing happens - real women have few fans. But they are weighty. Real men are not seduced by someone who is not clear. They are looking for one who can become their wife and muse. And they are looking not in nightclubs, not on the streets. And in those places where there are good girls. They are not interested in short skirts, necklines and bright makeup. They are looking for a pure soul and a deep look.

One friend of mine has been developing femininity for a very long time. There were no relationships, no boyfriends either. They seemed to have disappeared somewhere since she began to change. There used to be a lot of them, but then they suddenly disappeared somewhere. She was worried about this - whether she was going there, whether she was doing everything right. But the taste for the feminine has already appeared. And she continued.

A guy suddenly appeared in her life. Not a boy, but not a man either. Serious enough, but not mature enough. With good beginnings of a real man, but without a foundation for development in this direction. In past relationships, he was a boy who obediently did everything that was required of him and was crushed. He began to look after her, just look after her. She allowed herself what she did not allow before - to have a fan.

For about a year he went to the fans. Apparently, the male in him overcame everything else, and he was able to continue what others would have been disappointed in. It has changed over this year. The hunt for the lady's heart made him stronger and more confident. Communication with her taught him a lot - and a year later it was a different person.

It was a man. A real man. Who gives the word and keeps it. Which takes care of the solution of all issues. Who tolerates any emotions of a woman. So he could become next to her. Because she is a Woman. She knows her own worth, she grows in the right direction. And you cannot be different next to her.

They are now married for several years. They are waiting for the addition. And every year she becomes more feminine, and he - even more masculine.

And you can get scared - where did the men go? Nobody gets to know each other! So they don't get to know each other because they see that they cannot offer anything to such a woman. Because this woman is not for an overnight relationship. Because respect is already awakening inside. Like a mother or sister who cannot be used. Therefore, it is better to pass by. And may the one who can give her what she needs come and make her happy.

True femininity and masculinity is a diamond. Not everyone is able to understand its value. Not everyone can become a “buyer” of such a piece of jewelry. Many people are too scared to wear such a piece of jewelry, and it is better to replace it with jewelry. Find a rag husband to push around. Or find a wife, to whom you can sit on your neck. Because it is convenient, familiar and not scary at all.

But happiness is always beyond comfort. It is where it is unusual and scary. Where there is development. Where everything becomes as God intended. Where a man is a hunter. Where is the woman - keeps the hearth. Where he is dangerous, and she is wise. Where he performs feats for her sake, and she knows how to accept such love with dignity.

Don't be afraid to go where it is scary. To be afraid is the loss of time and energy, living in a cage of your own comfort. Its cozy swamp, in which, although it is warm, but there is no happiness and love.

Love each other, learn to activate the code of masculinity in your partner and the code of femininity in yourself. Teach this to your children. And the world will definitely change.