Parenting is the process of tuning parents to the biorhythms of a child

2024 Author: Seth Attwood | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 15:55

In ancient times, children were nurtured. It is now they are being brought up, nurtured, trained and courted …

Nursing is a whole process of tuning parents to the biorhythms of the child and tuning the child to the biofield of the Earth. It turns out that all the old Slavonic "games for the little ones" (like "magpies-crows", "three wells", "little pads") are not games at all, but medical procedures based on acupuncture.

If you just swaddle, wash and feed your baby, you are caring for him.

If you say at the same time something like: "Oh, my sweetheart! Give this pen here, and this one - in the sleeve. And now we will put on a diaper" - you bring him up: for a person should know that he is loved, with they communicate and in general it is time to start talking someday.

But if you, while washing your child, pronounce the little pestle like:

So, if you feed the child with these verdicts-pestushki, then you establish a rhythm, are included in the general energy flow of the earth. Everything on earth is subject to certain rhythms: respiration, blood circulation, hormone production … Day and night, lunar months, ebb and flow. Each cell works in its own rhythm. On that, by the way, conspiracies against diseases are built: the sorcerers catch a "healthy rhythm" and adjust the diseased organ to it. So for every sore - its own verse.

The best examples of folklore help parents to make their communication with their child more intense emotionally and aesthetically. However, today they are almost never used in communication with the baby. What is hidden behind the mysterious concept of "nurturing" a baby? And do modern mothers need it?

Lyubov Pavlova

Leading researcher at the Center for Preschool Childhood named after A. V. Zaporozhets, candidate of psychological sciences

Emotional communication is one of the leading lines of development of a small child, starting from the first months of his life. Affectionate mother's touch, her voice, singing, loving eyes, the first games in combination with a poetic word - all this was called and is called by a capacious word - folklore. Folk pedagogy includes small genres of poetry for children: pestushki [1], nursery rhymes, jokes, sayings, etc. They formed the basis of maternal pedagogy, tested for centuries. And one can only marvel at the folk genius who managed to express in a poetic word the great power of mother's love.

Great-grandmother's word

Folk pedagogy has developed its own traditional folklore genres for the little ones. All of them are unpretentious in content and simple in form, but they are fraught with considerable aesthetic and didactic (from the Greek didaktikós - instructive) dignity. A simple rhyme, repeated sound combinations and words, exclamations and emotional appeals involuntarily make the baby listen, freeze for a moment, peering into the face of the speaker. The unique originality of folklore is especially valuable for activating a child in a period when he has not yet formed voluntary actions, attention, and reaction to words.

It should be noted that all genres correspond to the psychophysical capabilities of a small child, therefore, they can be used now, focusing on the microperiods of early childhood - from birth to 3 months; from 3 to 6 months; 6-9 months; 9-12 months A newborn baby grows "by leaps and bounds." The baby changes intensively every three months, therefore, new, more complex tasks are posed in mastering body and hand movements, speech skills, emotional manifestations, cognitive reactions to the world around them and, of course, communicative abilities in communicating with adults. It is interesting that for each named micro-period it is possible to select folk works that correspond precisely to its genetically determined tasks. This also applies to the 2nd and 3rd years of life.

Pestushki, nursery rhymes, jokes, tongue twisters, fables and shape-shifters, differing from each other in their pedagogical orientation, are introduced into a child's life in different ways, depending on age.

Pestushki

Piggies include play interaction with a child, when an adult performs movements "for him", playing with his arms and legs. The baby may still be inaccessible to such movements as body turns, he cannot purposefully act with his hands, he cannot sit down, crawl, stand up at the support on his own - all this will come to him during the 1st year of life. It was during this period that the mother fosters the baby: she plays with her hands, strokes the baby on the tummy, makes “stompers” with his legs. The mother caresses the awakened baby, touching it with light massage movements, gently says:

Or:

Massage, turning the head, throwing handles on the head, waving hands with mother's help, etc. - all this not only physically improves the baby, but also gives him a lot of pleasure. If at the same time mom says cheerfully:

An adult throws the child on his knees, and then pretends to lower him down (squeezes with his knees and puts him back on the "horse" ("sleigh", "cart", etc.).

Good road

Good road

Now something has become worse

Now something has become worse

Naughty, playin ',

Naughty, playin ',

On the bridge, under the bridge,

On the bridge, under the bridge,

Boom in the hole

Exercises that prepare the child for mastering walking are useful.

Pronouncing the rhymed lines, the mother alternately slaps the baby lying on the back in the footsteps, which reflexively react to light touches. So an adult forms a sense of the rhythm of walking when stepping over one or the other leg.

When the child begins to master walking, other little dogs come to the rescue, for example:

Saying these verses, the mother holds the baby by the arms and, stepping back, gently leads him along. The rhythm of the verse also sets the rhythm of walking: "tops-tops", "tsaps-tsaps" coincide with the steps of a stepping child.

The kid can be driven in another way: an adult holds him behind by the armpits and, spreading his legs wide apart, encourages him to step over his legs.

Big feet

Walking along the road:

Top-top-top,

Top-top-top

Little feet

We ran along the path:

Top-top-top, top-top-top

Top-top-top, top-top-top

They are entertaining for the child and little dogs, thanks to which he learns to do rhythmic clapping. An adult grabs the baby's arms and, bringing them closer, says:

"Okay, okay,

Where were you? - At Annushka's

What did you eat? - Pancakes

Where are the pancakes? - Ate …

No pancakes! " (The child's arms are spread apart)

The game continues. An adult suggests going to Panichka:

Okay, okay,

Where were you? - At Panechka

What did you eat? -Gingerbread

Where are the gingerbreads?

Have eaten …

No gingerbread! (The child's arms are spread apart)

Then the adult offers to "go" to Mikeshka to eat nuts, then to Troshka to eat potatoes, and then to Senechka for seeds (by analogy). It is important that while playing, the child learns to fold his palms at the word "okay" and perform play movements with his hands in the rhythm of a song.

Nursery rhymes

Gradually the little pestushki are replaced by nursery rhymes - this is the name of the verdict songs accompanying the game with fingers, pens, head, and legs. The nursery rhyme differs from the nursery rhymes in that they are designed for the activity of the child himself, who performs play movements on his own, correlating them with the content of the nursery rhyme: finger movements, twirling palms ("flashlights"), patting handles ("palms"), putting fingers on head ("ears"), etc.

So, for example, the nursery rhyme "Okay, okay" is presented to the child in order to teach the baby to independently perform a sequential chain, play actions, when the baby makes "flashlights" with pens, then claps his palms.

Okay, okay

Where were you?

By Grandma

What did you eat?

Koshku

Have you been drinking?

Sour milk

Yummy yummy

Kashka sweet,

Nice grandma

We drank, ate, shu-oo-oo …

We flew home

They sat on the head,

Ladies began to sing. (The kid throws up his hands, makes waves and puts his palms on the head)

You can put any name in the nursery rhyme: it is important that the baby understands that we are talking about him. He will be very interested if his mother plays this nursery rhyme in front of him with a doll:

Pussy, pussy, pussy, scatter

Don't sit on the path:

Our doll will go

Will fall through the pussy! (The toy cat is placed in the path of the walking doll and then removed.)

Or:

Get out of the way cat

Doll Tanechka is coming,

Doll Tanechka is coming,

Will never fall

For babies at the beginning of the 2nd year of life, nursery rhymes are selected, which, not only are understandable to the baby in their content, but also reflect the moments of his usual daily routine: feeding, sleeping, washing, playing, etc. It is good if adults have a command of the folklore word and can “blossom”, emotionally enrich, it would seem, quite ordinary situations. While playing with the child, helping to stand up, one can say:

Dybok, dybok,

Soon Sasha is one year old

Dybok-dybok! A whole year!

When washing, you can say:

Vodichka-vodichka,

Wash our face

To make the eyes shine

To make your cheeks turn red

So that the mouth laughs,

To bite a tooth

Bathing the baby, mom affectionately says:

The water is fluid,

The child is quick-witted

Water off a duck

With a child of thinness

Water down,

And the child up!

Dressing the child for a walk, the mother can entertain him with the following lines:

Our Masha (Dasha, Sasha, Katya) is small,

She is wearing an alenka fur coat,

The edge is beaver,

Black-browed Masha

The desire of mothers, nannies to raise a child strong, healthy and well-nourished gave rise to many sayings with the help of which they tried to feed the child, give him milk, treat him with a pie, pamper pancakes, jelly, etc.

Jelly came

I sat down on a bench

I sat down on a bench

He ordered Olenka to eat

A very short version is also possible:

Let's cook porridge

We will feed Sasha

Love for a child, affection and motherly tenderness are expressed in the following lines:

Our baby in the garden

Like an apple in honey

It is important that the mother smiles at the same time and her speech is very emotional:

On an oak, on an oak

There are two little girls sitting here

Their necks are blue

They have golden feathers,

Red caftans

Blue pockets

They sit on an oak tree,

They say among themselves:

All about Galenka

All about the little …

Many years have passed since these nursery rhymes appeared, and until now they have not lost their relevance. And today children, just as at all times, expect attention, care, love from their loved ones, expressed not only in actions, but also in a kind word. It is important not only to love your baby, but also to be able to emotionally, brightly and beautifully express your feelings. The folk word is an unsurpassed "teacher": that is why adults need to master the techniques of folk art and, communicating with the baby, skillfully "weave" them into everyday speech.

It should be borne in mind that for a small child, it is not just conversations, stories about something or someone that are significant. He needs to be an accomplice in what is happening and hear from an adult a direct appeal to himself in order to feel the attitude of mom, dad or grandmother, etc. in a specific situation, to understand their mood at the moment.

In the bright little house

Lizusha has grown

People love her

All doves her

Option for a boy:

Who is our good one?

Who is good-looking?

Kolya is good,

Nice knee

In this case, you can stroke the child on the head, hold the handles and lead a round dance.

Jokes

As researchers of poetic folklore for little ones note, all the most important components of the game are combined in pestushki and nursery rhymes: word creation, visualization, rhythm and instruction. Even more of these features are seen in jokes.

Jokes differ from pestushki and nursery rhymes in that they are not associated with any game movements. But they have some kind of fairy tale plot. These works are intended for children of the 2nd - 3rd years of life, who have already accumulated certain ideas about the world. The baby's knowledge of the surrounding objects and phenomena is associated with his knowledge of man and human activity. That is why in folk works all animals act like people, their actions are evaluated from the point of view of human logic. For instance:

Such works should be read emotionally, even artistically, changing the strength and pitch of the voice, intonationally highlighting the semantic content. The kid must understand what exactly you want to tell him, what you draw his attention to. Of course, you need colorful illustrations, pictures that support interest in the poetic text at the visual level. Jokes can be called sounding dynamic pictures from the life of animals, birds, and even insects, but at the same time they reflect human relationships. That is why this genre provides excellent material both for acquaintance with the environment and for the social development of a small child: in an allegorical, playful, entertaining form, the baby gets an idea of the world.

A squirrel is sitting on a cart

She sells nuts:

Little fox sister,

Sparrow, titmouse,

To the fat-headed bear,

Zainke mustache,

To whom in a scarf,

To whom in the goiter,

Who cares

Having read this joke expressively, you can invite the child to look at the illustration, name all the animals listed, ask about their characteristic external features, etc. The word “sells”, which corresponds to the original text of the joke, can be replaced with “distributes” in lessons with the baby. This situation should be depicted in playing with toys: a squirrel treats its friends, and they, having received a nut, thank her. You can end this lesson with the words:

“And our Galenka is in the handle

Help yourself, Galenka, to your health!"

Jokes are like painted nesting dolls or wooden mechanical toys, where everything is bright and figurative. All the characters are endowed with memorable features: Galka has a “blue sundress”, a rooster has a “golden comb and a silk beard”, a chicken has a hazel-grouse, and a grandma's geese “one gray, the other white”. Sonorous epithets and dynamic images - everything is filled with light and iridescent multicolor: azure flowers smiling at the sun, a cockerel that “gets up early and sings loudly”, “a bell-sun” generously pouring “gold into a window”, etc.:

Cockerel, cockerel,

Golden scallop,

Butter head,

Shchelkov beard,

That you get up early

Sing loudly

Don't you let the kids sleep?

or:

Goat-hassle

Day-to-day busy:

She - to nibble herbs,

She - to run to the river,

She - to guard the goat,

Protect small children

So that the wolf does not steal,

So that the bear does not lift

So that the fox-fox

I didn't take them with me

Fables

A special kind of jokes - fairy tales and shape-shifting songs, which help the child to understand the real and the fantastic, strengthen the child in the correct perception and feeling of the world. This is the high pedagogical value of fables.

Because of the forest, because of the mountains

Grandpa Yegor is coming

Himself on a horse,

Wife on a cow

Children on calves

Grandchildren on kids

Or:

There was an important turnip,

Each grandmother wondered:

One day

You can't go around

The whole village was eating

The whole week

Fictions, in which real connections are deliberately displaced, are intended for older children who already have sufficient life experience to feel the paradox of the situation described. Reading such poems contributes to the development of freedom of thought, imagination and, importantly, a sense of humor. Young children (up to 3 years old) perceive paradoxes as reality. It is important that the baby hears surprise in the voice of an adult and understands that something incredible is happening.

The folk poetic word addressed to children is necessary not only for them, but also for adults to express their love for the child, tenderness, care, belief that he is growing healthy and beautiful, strong and smart. There are no edifications in these works, but so much is read between the lines that it is possible without exaggeration to call folklore for little ones a means of folk didactics, introducing children to the poetic word, enriching them spiritually and developing physically.

[1] From the word "nourish" - in the old days it meant to nurse a small child, take care of him. Now it is more often used in a figurative sense - carefully, lovingly to grow, educate.