Childbirth and life scenario

2024 Author: Seth Attwood | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 15:55

Development of therapy for birth and intrauterine injuries

At the end of the 70s, in our practical work, we approached the provision of real assistance to clients in overcoming the birth and intrauterine trauma they had experienced. We relied on Frank Lake's hypothesis that any trauma experienced by a mother during pregnancy is transmitted to the fetus through the umbilical cord. In addition, we have established that the fetus, while in the womb, which is going through a traumatic situation, is, as it were, saturated with the negative atmosphere of this traumatic situation. Thus, we concluded that the fetus is affected by trauma not only through the umbilical cord, but also through the aura of the maternal field during the entire period of prenatal development.

The method of our work consisted in the fact that the client was asked to lie down on a mattress located on the floor, surrounded by protective pillows and, if it was convenient for him, to curl up, assuming the position of an embryo. By concentrating on deep breathing, he made contact with his senses, directing them to explore the body, mind and spirit in order to localize this primary trauma. Healing appears to occur when the client returns to this early trauma and realizes that the response of an embryo, infant, or young child should no longer be replicated in the adult's life. From this moment, behavior, as a rule, changes quite strongly and an adult begins to behave rationally and adequately, and not like an unreasonable child.

"The way a person was born seems to be closely related to his general outlook on life, the balance of optimism and pessimism, his attitude towards other people, the ability to resist the blows of fate and achieve his goal." Stanislav Grof.

Birth script becomes life script

In the course of therapy, when we guide the client from conception to birth, it becomes more and more obvious to us that it is the birth scenario that becomes the life scenario, and the human body is able not only to fully remember this birth scenario, but also to translate it into real life - how, we do not yet know. We know that there are three parts of birth trauma that need to be healed: emotional feeling, physical sensation, and historical memory. The whole process seems inexplicable and many clients believe that their negative attitude towards life is incurable and irreversible. Traumatized people suffer from the destructive feelings of being unloved, rejected, and an intolerable fear of death. Their lives are in danger, their feelings are wounded, their "I" does not exist, and these reactions are transmitted and projected onto the people and situations around them. Re-experiencing on a physiological, psychological, and spiritual level the birth process during which something negative took place and becoming aware of this negative situation can facilitate the healing process and reverse negative reactions to the primary trauma.

What happened in the prenatal period and during childbirth is imprinted in the form of a diagram and a primary scenario recorded at birth. For example: "Everything is going wrong for me", "I have to fight to survive", "I walk in circles", "I probably will never be able to complete something", "I never understand what is happening", "I will never do it." All of these attitudes darken the lives of clients and prevent them from realizing the potential that they have. Further repetition of these patterns during infancy and childhood helps to strengthen and fix them and, thus, the scenario of birth gradually becomes the scenario of life.

“Growing distress is a very real danger that is characteristic of the intrauterine state today, as well as the use of forceps and artificially accelerated labor - all this is constantly increasing the number of disadvantaged people who will look at life the same way we do and will continue strife.”Frank Lake.

Birth injury

It is clear that traumatic childbirth largely determines the nature and way of life. In other words, at the moment of a person's birth, sensations are formed, which subsequently control him on a subconscious level. A distinction should be made between the projection of adult experience onto the infantile world of the fetus and the inclusion in adult behavior of negative patterns of anger, anxiety, and horror gleaned from the corresponding infantile experience. Our long-term study of different types of childbirth has revealed similarities in the personal attitudes of clients who have experienced childbirth of the same type. Interestingly, the same conclusion was reached by Ray and Mandel when studying the influence of the nature of childbirth on human relationships (1).

We have found that for many people, distress and birth trauma remain suppressed and do not manifest in consciousness until late adolescence, early adulthood, or even mid-adulthood. They can manifest themselves during illness, strong psychological pressure or stressful situations. The discovery that our main, primary disorders originate in embryonic life means that in order for a person to reach their full potential and to be as effective as possible, therapy must be carried out with regression to the same initial (embryonic) level.

Different types of birth trauma

Traditional medical classifications of types of birth abnormalities include: breech presentation, forceps, caesarean section, stimulation, premature or late labor, transverse presentation, facial rotation, medication and anesthetics.

Life Scenarios

We propose the following classification of life scenarios identified in adults who, lying on the floor, made a regressive return to the process of their birth.

Breech presentation

Breech presentation is abuse experienced in the womb, and people born this way are often victims.

“It's hard for me to do everything the right way. I always do the opposite. I find myself in places and situations that I cannot get out of. I am looking for solutions but I feel insecure. I know the way out, but I can’t put things in order. Everything breaks down. I try again, but everything in life goes wrong."

Rotated breech presentation

The fetus was turned before leaving the womb:

“I think everything is very difficult. I always do what I don’t want to do. I am afraid that what I start doing will not work out. I go in circles trying to reach my goal."

Forceps

It is also a forced type of birth - help eventually comes, but can you trust such help and support again? People who are extracted with forceps are characterized by ambivalence. The birth setup often looks like this:

“Why should I do everything myself? Why can't someone else do it properly? They are all so incompetent! I'll do it myself, it's safer. Life is a constant struggle! I have to control everything, but I need help. (Duality is always accompanied by great distrust.) I'm not going to do that. Why do I always have to work under such intense pressure?"

C-section

With a caesarean section, a person enters the world through another gate. His problem is how to adapt to life experiences like "it was done by others" instead of "do it yourself."It is difficult for mothers of such children to teach them to do something on their own and to teach them limitations that they never have, unlike children born by the usual vaginal route:

“Whatever I do is not worth doing, because nothing will come of it anyway. I want to know where to go and what to do. I'm waiting for something to happen. It's all right: the job will still be done, someone else will do it. There is some kind of gap here - a place that I do not remember. They are all right, and I am wrong. I will sit and wait. I am starting something and I cannot finish. I cannot think on my own. I am never at the right time in the right place"

Stimulation

Due to disorders in the development of the embryo, or for other medical reasons, labor is stimulated or artificially initiated:

"I'm not ready! Don't push me. I feel helpless, I don't know what to do. I do not know how to do it. I am missing something. It's a big challenge to know how to get started. I cannot achieve what I want. Wait, I won't do this until I'm ready."

Over the past nine years, we have devoted a lot of time to finding ways to help our clients relieve the pain of these early traumas and not be mentally or physically abused in situations similar to when the initial pain occurred. This is not always possible, but when you understand what stresses the fetus has to go through, the strength of the human body is amazing.

Mother's illness

Serious illness in the mother often results in shock for most if not all of her life.

"I am sick. It is my fault that she is sick. I feel squeezed out. If I make great efforts to achieve what I want, it ends up not being what I want. This degree of intimacy makes me sick. I could not be fed; milk made me sick. Something is wrong with me. I am always expecting something, and nothing is returned to me. It's all my fault."

It is sad that a person can be sick all his life and never understand that he carries the mother's illness in the form of a memory. For the healing to take place, it is vital for the client to separate his or her own feelings from those of the mother in that early period.

Sexual problems

From time to time, the fetus has the experience of the parents making love. At the same time, real feelings are sometimes distorted and the fetus experiences a feeling of physical and mental abuse. When sex is in the form of violence, the fetus senses it and this shapes future attitudes towards sex. We often associate sexual problems with the umbilical cord and the sensations coming through it, but, apparently, there is another way of transmitting these sensations - directly through the cells. A surprisingly large number of clients experienced prenatal ejaculation of sperm, feeling dirty, sticky, frightened, and many experienced maternal feelings about intercourse. The large number of clients who have experienced sexual abuse as a parent suggests that having sex during pregnancy can be a source of traumatic experience.

"Wrong" gender

Experiencing that you are a girl while expecting a boy is a very painful event. Or to be a boy when the family already has one, two, three, four and even five boys - one can only wonder if everything goes well in the life of such a man. The settings are as follows:

“I always do the wrong thing. I disappoint everyone. I am not pleasant to anyone. I want you to love me. I will die without love. She doesn't want me. I am in a double trap - she wants me, but with me it’s not like that; I'm a failure and I can never change that. And while in the womb, the embryo often feels that it is not the gender that the parents would like.

When a mother discovers she is pregnant

A mother's reaction to her pregnancy can have a profound effect on the new human body. If the mother does not have full acceptance of this fact, the embryo has a feeling of unwillingness and rejection. If the mother experiences horror, then the fetus experiences (according to F. Lake) trans-threshold stress. Rejection turns inward and transforms into a deep and permanent sense of uselessness. The settings can be as follows:

"Nobody needs me. Nobody loves me. Nobody wants me. It's not like that for me. I'm always wrong. I wish I was not there. I am nothing. I need recognition. It's my fault. I always feel guilty."

Implantation in the uterus

The attitudes that form during implantation have surprised us for many years. We went further and further to find healing points for people. We have established that in the event that the experience of birth trauma does not solve the problem, you can continue to move backward (although this is not true for every person). This is known to those who are familiar with the works of S. Grof.

The location of the implantation site in the uterus affects how a person is “fit” for life. The settings obtained from the implantation are as follows:

“There is no place for my existence. I can't settle down anywhere. I don't belong to anything. Nobody needs me here. I am afraid to strive for anything. Why is it so excruciatingly difficult for me to find a comfortable place? Life throws me from one nightmare place to another. The world seems unsafe to me."

Finding your place in life is very important. Finding what you belong is part of the healing process. It is very interesting to relive the feeling of safety and security in the womb.

Attempted abortion or a condition close to spontaneous abortion

For those who survived, an attempted abortion or a condition close to a spontaneous abortion or miscarriage is stressful. Frank Lake has always emphasized that it is impossible to assume any longer that a fetus at the age of 24-28 weeks does not experience anything when an abortion is attempted. Back in the late 70s, scientific confirmation was received (Verny, 3) that during this period a highly developed organism was already formed, sensitive to any changes in the environment.

As we have established, a fetus who has survived an attempted abortion knows that its presence is undesirable and that its life is in danger. He experiences his almost complete murder, the horror of death, with amazing precision. A lifelong keen sense of rejection is a misfortune for many who have experienced this kind of horror. The proximity of death in spontaneous abortion can leave a feeling of death constantly lurking around the corner. A prematurely born child can also perceive maternal fear, making it his own, as a result of which he will experience double terror.

Accidents with the mother during pregnancy (such as falling down stairs, car and bicycle accidents) are also perceived by the fetus as an attempted murder. When a person grows up, this infant logic can replace the adult, but with the help of going back, you can restore the distorted situation.

The attitudes dictated by the attempted abortion are similar to those of the adopted child and are characterized by complete rejection:

“I am here by mistake, I should not be here. I have to stop the pain - it's so excruciating. I am stressed all the time. I don't know if someone needs me or not. I can’t forget - and I can’t help it. I don’t want to upset anyone. I want to dissolve. I want to die. I want to get the hell out of it!"

Fallopian tube injury

Frank Lake has always said that everything related to birth trauma occurs in the first trimester, the first three months. As our work evolved, it became apparent to us. It is striking how the installations from the fallopian tubes are repeated at birth. These settings can be identical. These appear to be typical fallopian tube settings, but many of them can also be generic settings. We hoped that experiencing trauma to the fallopian tubes might alleviate the experience of birth trauma, shorten treatment time, and promote deeper insight into the trauma. More research is needed in this area.

The blastocyst may have difficulty moving down the tube. Therefore, the attitudes that arise are as follows:

“I don’t want to be attached to anything, so I’ll stay in the middle. Around me is a closed space. I cannot grow. It seems to me that I am moving in the opposite direction. I am stuck. I have done a great job, but I haven’t achieved anything. I can not do it. You are going to kill me. It will be better not to reach the goal. I do not believe in moving forward.

In therapy, great importance is attached to the negative aspects of prenatal development, since this is what the therapist works with, what he needs to heal. Note, however, that many clients, experiencing the state of being in the womb, experience joy, love and other positive emotions. It is not uncommon for clients, in the process of creative regression, to achieve a sense of the "basis of existence" in the form as it was first experienced by them during the week between conception and implantation of the zygote into the wall of the uterus. Frank Lane and we have found that some people are amazed and even blinded by the bliss and splendor of their entry into the blastocyst phase before this free, mystical entity is fettered by implantation. The unification of the metabolic processes of the fetus and the mother, which occurs through the umbilical cord, is the effect that the embryo no doubt expects, but in a certain sense it is negative, strongly felt.

Trauma of conception

Many people whose conception was undesirable experience great difficulty in being in a physical body. Often there is a strong split, in which something beautiful is imagined, accompanied by a departure from reality and responsibility. In this case, visualization of conception can be helpful, as advised by Ruth White, but there will not be significant pain relief unless you accept a real stay here. If this awareness is not realized, then an acute feeling of dissatisfaction and sometimes serious mental and physical illness may arise.

The attitudes received at conception can be as follows:

“I shouldn't be here. I hate life. I want to die. I don't want to be anywhere. Leave me alone. Why am I where I don't want to be?

Twins

There are classic attitudes caused by twin syndrome. A twin born second often perceives the first as being smarter, brighter, and more like a leader. The second twin will put up with the state of affairs, believing that nothing can be done with his position, he will often wait for something to happen, as if it is "on the way." Often the attitude is manifested in the fact that the second twin knows a way out of difficult situations, but feels unable to do anything in this direction. Other settings are as follows:

“I am not recognized, I don’t know where to go. Nobody is waiting for me. Everyone has forgotten me. I'm insignificant. I shouldn't be here."

This stimulates such worldly qualities as distrustfulness, a tendency to anger and a feeling of abandonment. The second twin repeats what the first does: "I make easy choices by letting him act first."

The first twin is often guilty and a leader. He often acts like an older brother or sister. Gemini often want their own place, feel a sense of fear of intimacy, but at the same time, they strive for intimacy and feel that they cannot live without each other.

If tragedy occurs and one of the twins dies, either as a result of childbirth or after it, the surviving twin suffers immensely. The script becomes as follows:

“I feel like I’ve lost something in my life (and it becomes a reality and comes to the surface, even if the surviving twin has not been told for many years after birth that he was born as a twin and his twin died). I am doing double duty in my life. Something is wrong in my life. I don't understand why I cry so much."

A grimace of surprise often runs over the face of such a person, he often feels lost, or looks into the faces of passers-by and studies them, constantly looking for someone who is not here.

Twin loss syndrome is also experienced by people born prematurely, when one twin dies as a result of a spontaneous abortion. Almost 65% of fertilized eggs undergo spontaneous miscarriages.

These are just a few of the life scenarios that we have faced over the years.

Intrauterine trauma

From working with birth trauma, our research continued in the direction of various aspects of intrauterine life - its dependence on situations that occurred in the mother's normal life. These situations have a profound effect on the life of the embryo and fetus. Frank Lake called this the negative effect of the umbilical cord or the mother / fetus distress syndrome, but he was unable to establish why the human body is able to remember so many details of this life.

Cellular Consciousness

Is the mind in an energy field? If so, can this explain the apparent existence of cellular consciousness?

The nature of what provides a therapeutic effect became clearer after our meeting with Rosalyn Brouyer, the first American healer who could read the aura, whose abilities were subjected to scientific study. Together with Dr. Valerie Hunt, Rosalyn Brouyer took part in Rolf's research in 1979. This was a scientific study carried out on over 1000 clients who were deeply massaged while attached electrodes recorded changes in the electromagnetic field. Rosalyn also recorded changes in the configuration of the electromagnetic field, and a direct correspondence was established between what she saw and the readings of the instruments. Dr. Hunt's 18 years of research has identified the connection between the energy field and consciousness. These new scientific views reveal the connection between biological phenomena and the Mind Fields.

In our work, the role of the energy field of the body, which a person possesses, acquires a new meaning. This is also due to all the "new" and alternative methods and drugs that are flooding the market. They are all based on the energy system of the body, which is not recognized by Western medicine. Introducing the Western world to yoga based on the chakra system seems to offer the West more than just a relaxation technique.

Rosalyn Brouyer believes that the mind resides in an energy field within and around the body and controlled by the brain. We used these ideas in our work in parallel with Frank Lake's theory of the existence of cellular memory, or cellular consciousness. If the mind is in an energy field, then memory is also present in every cell of the body. Although cells are frequently renewed, the memory is present in the energy field of the subconscious and remains there until it is transferred into memory and propagated there.

Universal mind

With this understanding of the universality of mind, penetration deep into the cellular structure, our work on prenatal therapy began to make sense, especially in relation to the evolution of a single cell, which should form a new human being. It also helped us understand that our work, which we did as a sacred rite, and all healing in general, is spiritual. It also gave rise to a broader idea - is the universal mind part of what or who we call God? If some people meaningfully declare that God is everywhere and in everything, then the very concept that man is created in the likeness of God can be understood in a slightly different way.

Credibility and capabilities

In connection with the problem of cellular consciousness, Graham Farrant told an interesting case during his seminar in England in November 1990. A video camera was installed in the delivery room of an Australian hospital. It was observed that nurses and midwives held their breath while receiving the baby, possibly experiencing the sensations of their own birth. They were shown the videotape and made a conscious effort to breathe normally during the birth of the baby. The result was that during the next 793 births, there was no need to insert a tube down the baby's throat to make breathing easier. If there is such an effect that we have on each other, then an in-depth study of the mind can have a far-reaching impact on the entire human race.

The results of our work show that the trauma received during the first trimester becomes the cause of the formation of certain personality types, as well as the source of illness in an adult. It is well known that cancer cells are embryonic cells with a low amplitude but a high reproduction rate. In an embryo that is within the first trimester (the first three months), if the mother is traumatized, the growing embryonic cells become fixed in that environment. Our hypothesis is that if a similar situation arises in adulthood, it could trigger, reawaken, or restimulate trauma and possibly cause illness. We have already encountered this in the case of bradycardia, tachacardia and anger, which constitute the basis of certain mental and psychiatric cases in adults.

By Alison Hunter, Shirley Ward

Translation: E. N. Myasnyankina