Do you want to marry a "ready-made" man?

2024 Author: Seth Attwood | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 15:55

I receive many different requests for marriage.

• I want to marry a rich and caring!
• I want to marry a leader, a famous person!
• I want my future husband to be strong, successful, prosperous!
• I want to be a rich, developing, vegetarian, no bad habits, spiritual!

And so on ad infinitum.

Then I ask: "Why do you need a rich, successful, developing, without bad habits and spiritually rich?"

This is not a provocation question. I sincerely hope to hear the answer. I want to hear a confident answer from a woman who knows her strengths and appreciates herself.

A relationship is always an exchange. If a man gives you money, fame, status, position, shares good qualities, leads you on the path of spirituality, then what, as a woman, can you offer him?

Most women take offense at my question. And those who are not offended say “I am beautiful / slim / smart. I have a good education / I have an apartment / work / money"

Well, let's figure out how unique all of the above is?

Beauty? We live in Russia, and this is a country of beautiful women, we have a lot of them. Beauty will not make you stand out from the crowd, for such a man!

Slimness? There are many slender ones, here again you can not withstand the competition.

Clever? There are a lot of such in Russia. Smart, educated candidates and bachelors, doctors with two and three degrees. And there are women whose education is much cooler than yours. For example, I have a friend, she is beautiful, smart, slim, studies at Harvard, there are many degrees of all kinds, but she is still alone!

A good lover? This, of course, is a plus, but if you evaluate only on this scale, then any woman of the most ancient profession (courtesan / concubine) will "make" you! Sorry.

But really, no offense, why should you choose a "ready-made" man with all the set of masculine qualities?

What is unique about you? Don't be shy, don't be offended, just voice your strengths!

• Maybe you know how to listen with genuine interest in your eyes?
• Or maybe you know how to see good in a man, and sincerely admire it?
• Maybe you know how to inspire heroic deeds?
• Maybe you know how to be silent when necessary and leave the decisions for the man?
• Or maybe you are light and you are constantly in a good mood?
• Maybe you are a charmer of the household, and you know how to create such an atmosphere at home that a man can totally relax?
• Or maybe you know how to cook in such a way that everyone who eats this food moans with pleasure?
• Maybe you know how to get pleasure and enjoyment from everything that life brings? Do you know how to enjoy while enjoying yourself?
• Maybe you know how to accept a man with all his advantages and disadvantages?
• Maybe you know how to be grateful for everything, even for the little things?
• Or maybe you know how to obey and follow a man with confidence?
• Or do you know how to serve while maintaining your own dignity?

If you have 5 "yes" according to this poll, then you are out of competition, and a worthy man will definitely appear in your life, because these skills in the modern world make a woman unique, rare, and in demand!

If you value in yourself only the beauty, figure and the ability for sexual satisfaction of a man, then most likely you will be used. One should not expect a serious relationship with such values. After all, if you treat yourself only as a body, then why should others get to the bottom of your soul?

If you value only your mind, then the relationship will be built on an equal footing. Like good friends, like-minded people. But - no care, admiration, romance can be expected.

There is a good exercise that will help you understand your blind spots, which you need to work on in order to meet that “ready” man (if you really need him).

• Write a list of 20 qualities that you want to see in a man.
• Imagine his image without going into details of his appearance.
• Watch him.
• What position does he occupy?
• Where does he go?
• What are his friends?
• How does he spend his leisure time?
• How does he behave with women?
• With parents?
• Feel it. Dive into it. Imagine that you have become one. You may want to straighten your shoulders, straighten up. You can feel the vibrations of masculine strength and confidence fill you.
• And you (in the image of that man) accidentally meet a girl (this girl is you yourself, look at yourself through the eyes of this man).
• As a man, what do you think of this girl? What is she like? Does she attract you? What does she lack to become your woman?
• Listen to what words will come into your mind. Write them down.

In this practice, your inner man contacts your inner woman. They need to be honest to be a couple!

And after these realizations, return to yourself, to your female body

Maybe this practice will show you why this man hasn’t stopped you on the street yet, why he didn’t recognize you, didn’t see you.

Most of my clients, having carried out this practice, understand that it is not the beauty of the face that needs to be increased, not the waist that needs to be made slimmer. It seems to most men that a woman is too nervous, twitchy, emotional, fussy, insecure, unkempt, she lacks the proper gloss, there is no grace and charm.

Of course, you need to keep an eye on your figure and face, you need to learn the art of sexual intimacy, but believe me, this is not paramount.

This practice will also make you understand at what level you are now, and if you are comfortable there, then you may not need a "ready" man. Maybe you will agree to a relationship with a person of your level, with whom you will constantly develop, and, as a result of this development, you will come to prosperity.

Many of my clients are still lonely because of their exorbitant requests.

One woman in the age of 35, quite successful financially, consulted me on the issue of marriage. She really wanted a family and children.

I look at her map and tell her:

- You have already had a favorable period for marriage for four years! Very auspicious! Marriage proposals should have already been made to you …

- No, nobody offered!

I was surprised, I continue to talk with her, to find out. And finally, I "split" her when I started talking about my husband's type. I say, they say, your husband will be older than you, such and such features, such and such character, social status will be lower than yours.

- How lower? - she was indignant - and what should I do with him? I live in Europe, I am used to dressing in boutiques, going to the spa, visiting expensive places. Why do I need this? Over the past three years, I have “turned off” four of these, offered me to marry.

I was a little at a loss and began to explain that he would not be poor, just that the income level would be slightly lower than hers. And this can be fixed with its help. But she flatly refused. And then I asked her:

- Do you want a happy loving family with children, a loving and faithful husband, or do you need a wallet on your feet?

She replied that, of course, she wants a family, but it is very difficult for her to accept into her life a person who is at least somewhat inferior to her.

And if she was so alone! Alas! I have a lot of such clients. But the favorable period for marriage does not go long, and then it is difficult to count on the help of the Universe.

But the reality is that many Russian / Ukrainian girls are very beautiful, smart, slim, and the more they invest in external development, the more their bar grows. By the age of 35, it is very difficult for a woman to get married, not because there are no men, but because the criteria for relationships are very, very, very high. So tall that these women themselves do not match them.

I remember when I turned 21, my dad told me “If you don’t get married this year, you won’t get married later,” and I asked him “Why?”. Dad replied, “You have been living alone since the age of 16, you have already traveled half the world to your 20. And you have known too much freedom. It's dangerous for a woman. I don’t know where to find you such a guy who could control you. He must be wise, mature, educated, strong. He must be able to put you in your place so that you respect him. While your feelings are still playing, you have to get married and go your own way together. Otherwise, I will have to marry you to a Jew of about 40 years old, only such a man will have the wisdom to deal with you."

I just now understand how dad was right.

We women have a serious mistake in "pumping" ourselves, we "pump" the wrong muscles of femininity. You need to cultivate in yourself not only beauty and harmony, and, of course, not the ownership of real estate and money. And you have to hear this: “Why am I not a good bride? Beautiful, with education, I have an apartment, I have a car, I get it well. What else do the peasants want? " This is already a diagnosis. You need to cultivate those skills and qualities that will serve you all your life.

What are these qualities?

Again, I will repeat myself.

• Satisfaction;
• Gratitude;
• Women's self-confidence (self-sufficiency);
• The ability to see the good and admire (not only in

men, but also in women, including in themselves);

• Ability to be always in a good mood;
• Ability to accept without judgment;
• Interest in yourself and in life;
• Your female goals in life;
• The state of enjoying yourself and life;
• Ability to be silent;
• Obedience and following;
• Ability to speak, emphasizing dignity, without pretensions and reproaches.
• Serving with dignity.

This is an indicator of a "ready" woman who has a high level of self-worth, who has a lot of love and acceptance of herself and people inside. Men are also looking for just such women.

Few women are at this level, but they still expect to meet a man who has everything. But, in an amicable way, not every woman is ready for such a man.

Imagine you come to a horse farm and really want to ride a horse. Your level is an amateur rider. And the instructor offers you options: “Here is a good calm horse, very reliable, you can ride it. There is also a young stallion, you can start working with him now, he has very good data for a running horse. In a few years, you can achieve great results, and during this time he will become attached to you, become your faithful reliable friend. " But at this time your gaze is directed to the distant enclosure where there is a very expensive, powerful Arabian horse. His fur shines, his eyes burn, and his stormy temperament does not allow him to stand still, he stomps, hits his hoof and gracefully bends his neck. Fascinated by him, you no longer see other horses, and, as if under hypnosis, approach him and say: “I want this!”, But the instructor politely answers you “This is a racehorse, gold medalist, champion. This stallion has a very strong character and tremendous speed. Unfortunately, in order to ride this one, you need to train for a year, because at this stage this horse can injure you. The horse feels your condition very strongly and will react to all your "blind" zones! ". You, of course, do not want to listen to anything and say "And I want it now!" And you have anger at the instructor, and contempt for other horses. You only want this horse, and no other.

This is what happens to many women. Moreover, in this story, the racehorse is a man of a high level of maturity, and the instructor is God, who, protecting you, does not allow you to intersect with such a man. And in the end, as always - anger at God “How did I deserve such a life? Don't I deserve a normal guy? And refusal to communicate with other men.

You need to understand that if you are not yet given such a man, it means that you are simply not ready. But it's hard for women to prove it! Very difficult!

The powers of the female psyche are enormous, and she begins to pull such a man into her life with all her mental powers, does austerities, reads prayers, engages in futuristic practices for only one purpose - to attract.

And then the instructor gives up and lets you into the aviary.

How many tears such women shed.

Here comes a man. He starts courting, gives flowers, buys expensive clothes, brings them out, says compliments … Do you think a woman is happy about this?

Fig! She begins to panic and plunge into the abyss of fear, she waits for this to end, she gets jealous and checks his phone and mail, with every expensive gift the thought comes to her, “What should I do to deserve this?” jerky, nervous and fearful. She begins to curry favor, which finally kills a man's interest in himself. And then begins “You don’t love me / you could find a woman and more beautiful / why did you choose me / forgive me for not matching / you probably have someone else”, and that's it! By doing this, it kills all its value.

Because for this level of relationship, you need to have sincere self-sufficiency, awareness of your uniqueness, awareness of your feminine strength, interest in yourself and in life, the ability to live happily without a man.

It looks like a calm confident jockey who knows his professionalism and understands that if he is not given this horse, he will be given a better one! And he calmly looks into his eyes and smiles. For a horse, such a rider becomes insanely attractive. After all, horses (like men) very much feel the inner state of the rider. I say this from experience of communication - both with horses and with men.

I used to ride quite often, and the owner of the stable always told me, “If there is a fear of a certain horse, do not sit on it. She learns this and blows you through the forest!”, But, of course, I did not listen to her. That is why I chose running two-year-olds, almost unbroken, with a wild disposition. That is why I fell from them somersault, they dragged me along the stirrups on the ground, I rolled over with the horse into the icy ice, when rushing, at a gallop on the fastest horse. Because of the stupidity! Because of the usual female foolishness.

Therefore, I appeal to all women - please try to be adequate, reasonable in the desires and choice of a man! Try to look at it from the outside. Do you really need such a stallion?

Will this bring you happiness?

Or maybe you need a man with good qualities, who is just about to become outstanding, thanks to your faith in him, the ability to see his strengths and inspire him?

With this article, I urge you to work not only on your appearance, but also on the qualities necessary for happiness, on your own "depth"!

I urge you not to deserve men, but to become valuable in itself, so that men themselves want to seek you and deserve.

As one very successful businessman, business coach and accomplished man, Mark Ifraimov wisely said, “To become desirable and necessary for a woman, she must refuse to be needed. Then it will become a luxury, like a diamond, which is absolutely useless, but no one ever wants to part with it."

Become a diamond!

Let you have everything!

With love, Yulia Sudakova!