How to wean a person from drinking alcohol. Part V. Where to start?

2024 Author: Seth Attwood | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 15:55

So, you know how to organize the space around you, and you want to learn social hacking at least within such limits, which are enough to reliably wean one person from drinking alcohol for good. That is why you are reading this series of articles. Social engineering is a difficult science, but the road will be mastered by the walker. What I’ll talk about in these articles definitely works, but only if the engineer’s head and hands are in his nature’s planned places. But where do you start?

V the first it is necessary to forget that your goal is to wean a person from alcohol. Yes, yes, everything is exactly like that, you cannot solve one problem separately, and even more so, you cannot solve the problem by eradicating its consequences. Drinking alcohol is just a small consequence of a number of disadvantages, all of which will have to be worked on. Acting only in the anti-alcohol direction, keep in mind that nothing shines for you. The task of the engineer is not only to think over the structure itself, but also to make it reliable, resistant to possible external influences for a long period of time. Just as an engineer calculates all possible loads on a building structure (own weight, wind, soil movement, snow load, etc.), a social engineer must take into account various forms of pressure on his pupil: the persuasion of friends, traditions, some kind of internal conflicts psyche, possible dependence on public opinion or censure - all this will beat and successfully break through the usual set of anti-alcohol arguments. Therefore, I have already said before that it makes no sense to give these arguments just like that. You need to start by being clear about your real purpose.

Your real goal is to instill in a person a craving for independent thinking. This is a very broad quality, although one can try to concretize it: increase the level of his morality, responsibility, rationality, the degree of his freedom and other good properties, give him a methodology and the whole set of tools that you yourself own. This is at least. Gradually, thinking independently and having many positive qualities and powerful tools for working with reality, he himself will prove to himself why he does not need alcohol. You can even put it differently: the habit of drinking cultured will simply fall off from him like a dried lump of dirt. Ideally, the student will subsequently become even better than you in basic qualities.

Secondwhat you need to do is try to increase your total time together. Meeting and talking is enough, but if the opportunity arises to do something together, it will be even better. You need to get the person interested in yourself as much as possible so that he would like to discuss something with you. In my experience, the most interesting topics are those that directly relate to the problems that arise before a person, that is, interpersonal relationships (including the choice of a life partner), the meaning of life, truth and freedom, the search for oneself and one's place in life, as well as the hit of the generation "what to do after uni?" … there are a lot of these questions. Your task here is extremely simple. The fact is that the modern generation of people was brought up by their parents extremely badly: they did not give answers to many questions to their children, and they could not do this for many reasons. And then you appear, who can tell a lot from the proposed list well and clearly, and in at least a dozen different ways. You have an incredible advantage and a completely reliable way to interest a person for a long time. Or do you also comprehend these topics extremely badly? Well, then you inattentively read the previous part and in vain continue reading this series of articles when I forbade you to do it. You are wasting your time, because without a powerful set of knowledge on applied philosophical issues, you will lead a person to the wrong place.

Third … Put alcohol consumption on a par with all the other nonsense of today's youth. What nonsense is this? For example, smoking, computer games, parties and discos, games of "seducing girls" (so-called "pickup"), hobby for some dubious doctrines (Scientology, neo-paganism, etc.) or participation in any movement, which has imitative and provocative goals ("StopHam", "Leo Against", "Spirit of Time", "Revival. Golden Age", circles of young Marxists, atheists, Christians, Catholics, political games like the "youth parliament", GCD or, God forbid God, radical nationalist parties, I will not list another fifty names). That is, it is not necessary to put forward the use of alcohol as something special among the other disadvantages. All these shortcomings can only be classified according to the complexity of dealing with them (alcohol is the simplest), but you will have to wean a person from ALL, and no options. If even one such stupidity remains in a person, then you have not done your job.

Here I must fulfill a reservation: a person can be part of any movement when he is clearly aware of the fact that WHAT he does in it and WHYwhile its goals and methods are constructive. For example, you can join the youth parliament in order to get some of the most intelligent people out of there, or find a tool to influence someone in power, join a political party to use its power to achieve your more useful goals, become part of a nationalist organization in order to the right moment to drain her ideas to the authorities, etc. And remember for the future that it is not always easy to distinguish a person's creative passion from stupidity: you cannot rashly inform a person that “collecting butterflies” is bullshit, such an activity may have an important and useful goal even if it is not clear to you. You need to look not only at WHAT a person does (externally), and also know WHY he does it and HOW … Although even that is sometimes not enough.

To summarize. You not wean a person from drinking alcohol, and teach him to think independently so that later he can make his own choice (this choice, if he is really independent, will ALWAYS be in favor of giving up alcohol and other nonsense). You need to start by building a person's trust in yourself. You must become for him either an authority, or just a very important person with whom you want to communicate or do something. You will have to surprise him with something and show that a lot has been given to you thanks to a certain attitude towards life, to show how you solve life's problems and how you do it. This does not need to be done on purpose - it will inevitably happen in the process of communicating with a person. Sooner or later, he will share with you his problem that you can solve. All people who lack skillful thinking have practically the same list of life problems, so getting close to these people is not difficult.

Uncovering the social code that you need to infiltrate is actually very simple, but you need patience, dedication and the abilities that I talked about in the last part. You need to "hook" a person and keep him near you for a while, while not you need to hook it on purposely - you should behave naturally and skillfully use the opportunities that arise in a large number of ways to demonstrate something.

Of course, this is just the beginning, you won't be able to deal with shortcomings like that. The rule “the best explanation is by example”, which many people think should be applied in parenting, does not actually work for many reasons. And it shouldn't, and it is very easy to prove it even theoretically. Personal example is a necessary but far from sufficient condition.