For bullying

2024 Author: Seth Attwood | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 15:55

There is such a terrible horror - mockery of the weak. Where did it come from that above the weak? And are they weak or the reason is different? Let's try to figure it out.

One of the important features of the social organization of people connected into one whole is to find out who is worth what. This is a very different process, often confused with building a hierarchy. The more severe the living conditions of such a group of people, the tougher this test. A man going to fight wants to know what kind of comrades he is going with. In general, they are his comrades, and they will easily break under the pressure of circumstances. This desire to try for strength is usually revealed through the mechanism of psychological and emotional stability. When boys at the age of 8 decide to jump off the fence to find out who the coward is, they are not looking for the fearful, they are all, without exception, afraid (who has not done this yet), they check each other's psyche. And this will build their mutual respect.

In the army, in the barracks, in the collective of the same rank-and-file conscripts, usually the same clarification takes place at the same time of the beginning of the service. In this process, leaders are never approved or determined. There is even less desire in him to assert himself.

This process never starts with looking for the weak, not at all. Subconsciously, a crowd of people is at first afraid of infection. Yes, it is sewn into us, instinctively. First, the group rejects dirty, smelly, not washable, do not change clothes, poorly watching themselves.

It is the person who does not watch himself well that becomes the first target of an attack on strength in a society of equals. Secondly, this includes people with obvious physical disabilities or chronically ill. Even a highly compassionate person does not want to be the same. They turn away from them.

It so happens that a sick or ugly person does not experience any pressure from such a society. It only means that he passed and passed the second stage - the test for emotional strength, that is, he showed himself to be adequate on the part of this society.

One master conducted a study of the hierarchy within the group among tourists. That is, people who exist in harsh conditions and with a frequently changing composition. And he found out that even if the renegade is expelled for some reason, then another, from the remaining group, will definitely take his place.

In my opinion, this is a reflection, again, not so much of the desire to build an intra-group hierarchy, but rather the generation of a signal according to the level of the norm. That is, at the non-verbal level, it is given to understand - since it is not necessary to do it.

One who has fallen into the trap of the mind called speculation can explain this behavior by the constant search for a weak link. It is speculatively easy to imagine how a renegade is constantly separated from such a group and the group is reduced to one person. In practice, this is impossible. In addition, of course, the process of building a hierarchy exists, and, therefore, creates control actions. The non-verbal level of the norm helps this governing influence. In a negative form - if you do not obey you will be subjected to a certain degree of ostracism, in a positive form - stick to the majority and it will be easier for everyone.

Let me draw your attention to the fact that it is not the task of maintaining the authority of the leader, but of facilitating management. Maintaining authority, in the context of the renegades, will be the degree of fairness of the leader's decisions in relation to them from the point of view of the group. But nothing more.

Are there excesses and bullying too much? Certainly! Who usually goes overboard? No, not leaders. And those who were pressed or pressed elsewhere.

How many of you will go to a doctor who has just graduated from college? No one. The attitude towards a person without experience is appropriate.

Let's stop shaking with fear of what is happening in absolutely any team, not only in the army. Maybe mama's son needs to learn how to socialize, and this will help him in life? Ascribing weakness to your child will definitely not help him.