How to raise a man in a son?

2024 Author: Seth Attwood | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 15:55

Several useful tips, information about how our ancestors raised their children, and Oleg Vereshchagin's wonderful story "Raising a Warrior" - all this will help present or future parents to form the correct views on raising a growing man in a family.

First

The upbringing of the boy should be handled by the father. Moreover, from the very birth. From his birth, not from the birth of his son. Because upbringing in a family is not moral teaching. The boy is copying the pattern of his father's behavior, not his words. QUESTION TO MOMS - do you want your son to become the same as your husband?

Second

A man must be strong. What does it mean? Be able to make decisions and take responsibility for these decisions. QUESTION TO PARENTS - Is your son learning to make his own decisions and be responsible for them?

Third

Decision making and responsibility are two sides of the same coin. Freedom on the one hand. Restriction of freedom on the other.

EXAMPLE. A man makes decisions, but his woman is responsible for them. This is not a man, but a mama's boy. A man. The man does not make decisions, but is responsible for them. This is not a man. And henpecked. Little man.

Fourth

Freedom begins with self-restraint. There is an eastern saying “Camels are the first to drink water, because they have no hands. Men drink second because they have no patience. Women drink last."

UPBRINGING SCHEME (FOR DADS !!): “The best is for mom. Because she's a girl. Then the cat - because he is helpless and depends on us. And then you and me. Because we are men."

Fifth

At what age does a baby become a man? From the moment of realizing oneself as a person. Psychologists know this age. Three years. Yes, Mom. Three years. It is from this age that it is necessary to constantly instill in the son - "You are a man!". It is from this age that it is necessary to teach him the normal masculine word "Must!"

The man should. Be able to endure. Be able to overcome yourself. Be able to make mistakes. Know how to be gentle. Know how to be rude. Be able to be different. Be able to answer for your words. A man must be able to BE.

Sixth

A child should be treated like an adult. This does not mean that one should not play with him, not forgive his mistakes, not undead him, not smile at him.

Seventh

A child can be wrong. He explores the world around him, explores its boundaries. Do you know why men are like children? Because men also push the boundaries of this world. A man should be restless. He is the driving force behind humanity. And a woman is a preserving force, if anything.

You can't punish a boy for mistakes. They need to be corrected. Him. Himself. On one's own. But with your help and advice.

A number of traditions of raising boys, which our ancestors adhered to:

The first stage in the formation of a man was dedication, the transition from the age of infancy to the state of a child (adolescent) - at 2-3 years old. This milestone was marked by tonsure and riding a horse … It should be noted that this custom was common among all social strata. This sacred rite dates back to gray-haired pagan antiquity … Only later did the church adopt the tonsure ceremony. The tonsure rite can be traced among all peoples of the Indo-European root, in Christian Europe it has been preserved as a ritual of initiation into knights.

This is very important psychological frontier, he created a special mood in the boys, laid the basic principles of being. The boys were encouraged to be the defenders of their family, community, city, region, and the whole of Svetlaya Rus. A core was laid in them, which determined their fate. It is a pity that this tradition has almost disappeared in today's Russia. Men are brought up by women - at home, in kindergartens, in schools, in universities, as a result, there is very little “masculinity” in the country, Russians have ceased to be Warriors. Only in a critical situation, in a war, a part of the Russians wake up their ancestral memory, and then the Russians have no equal in battle. Partially a similar upbringing was preserved among the Caucasian peoples, in Chechnya, but in a perverted form, there their people are considered the chosen one, and the rest are belittled (a kind of Nazism).

The main the education of the warrior is the education of the Spirit, our ancestors knew it very well. The great Russian commanders, for example, A. Suvorov, knew this, his "Science of Victory" - the flesh of the flesh the legacy of their ancestors.

There were no special schools in Eastern Russia (at least there is no news of their existence). They were replaced by practice, tradition, apprenticeship. From early childhood, boys were taught to use weapons. Archaeologists find many wooden swords, shaped like real swords. These are not today's plastic toys - with a wooden sword, an experienced fighter could withstand the enemy, the weight of a wooden oak sword was almost equal to that of an iron one. The set of the young warrior also included: wooden spears, knives, a bow with arrows (simple bow).

There were toys, games that develop coordination of movements, dexterity, speed - swings, balls of all sizes, spinners, sledges, skis, snowballs, etc. Many of the children, especially from the nobility, were already small children received military weapons - knives, swords, hatchets. The annals describe cases when they used them, killing the enemy. The knife has been with the man since childhood.

A. Belov dealt with the existence of a special school of battle in Russia, he created a system - “ Slavic-Goritskaya wrestling". He confirms that the combat training took place in the form of a folk game, and then the "uniform" was supported by regular competitions that took place on holidays, most of them had pre-Christian roots (Kupala, the winter solstice and others). Single fist fights, wall-to-wall fights were common until the 20th century. Children absorbed this battle culture almost from the cradle.

The training was carried out at the teacher-student level, compare: in Russia until the 18th century there were no universities, but cities and temples were built, cannons and bells were cast, books were written, the level of education of the population in the X-XIII centuries was much higher than in Europe (as well as the level of hygiene). Skills were passed from teachers to students in practice, in order to become a master architect, a Russian person did not go to a special school, but became a student of a master, in military affairs as well.

The most important role was played by practice, Russia waged constant wars with neighboring peoples, and internecine wars were often fought. There was no shortage of real combat conditions; young soldiers could test themselves in practice. Naturally, the war took its toll, but those who survived received a unique lesson. You will not get such "lessons" in any school.

In peaceful life, combat skills were supported not only by folk games, but also by another important area - hunting. This nowadays beast has almost no chance against a man with a firearm. Then the fight was almost on an equal footing - claws, fangs, power, developed feelings against the skills of a person and cold weapons. The one who killed the bear was considered a real warrior. Imagine yourself with a hunting spear (spear) against a bear! Hunting was excellent training for maintaining Spirit, fighting skills, pursuit training, tracking down the enemy. It is not without reason that Vladimir Monomakh, in his "Teaching", recalls military campaigns and hunting exploits with equal pride.

To summarize: the boy was made Warrior, defender of the Family, Homelandon the basis of mental attitudes (in a modern way - programs), which were introduced from birth (and even before birth, the so-called prenatal education), the traditions of folk games for children and adults, festivals, and constant practice. That is why the Rus were considered the best fighters on the planet, even the Chinese emperors were guarded not by the fighters of their monastic orders and schools, but by the warriors of the Rus.