It is impossible to think about the soul of a half-naked girl

2024 Author: Seth Attwood | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 15:55

Recently, women's clothing has been called upon not to cover up the body, but to expose it. Short skirts that reveal the knees. Neckline, slim fit. And all this has already become familiar. It's common to see young girls with bright makeup. It's common to see little girls at beauty pageants.

Recently, I saw a clip of Selina Gomez on TV and for a long time could not understand why such a beautiful girl should be spoiled by “violent growing up”? Very cute and pleasant face. A pleasant voice. And here you are - bright makeup, absolutely not youthful hairstyles and outfits.

Recently, women's clothing has been called upon not to cover up the body, but to expose it. Short skirts that reveal the knees. Neckline, slim fit. And all this has already become familiar. It's common to see young girls with bright makeup. It's common to see little girls at beauty pageants.

Recently, I saw a clip of Selina Gomez on TV and for a long time could not understand why such a beautiful girl should be spoiled by “violent growing up”? Very cute and pleasant face. A pleasant voice. And here you are - bright makeup, absolutely not youthful hairstyles and outfits.

I remember myself like that. Discos at school, trying to stand out. And bright makeup, and deep neckline, and skirts that amaze with their complete absence. All this was in my life. And I remember very well my feelings in all this. Feeling completely helpless. Like I'm naked. It's like I'm just a body that doesn't have a soul.

Now my values have changed a lot, thanks to my husband and the knowledge that comes to me. And recently, while in Morocco (and this is an Arab country), I encountered a different world. Where women wear long dresses and headscarves. Where you cannot see naked female legs, deep neckline, and under the folds of clothes you cannot guess the parameters of the figure.

Where even young girls slightly tint their lips and cover their hair. And they meet with the boys on the embankment with a large crowd of people and talk. No, they don't hug or kiss. And they don't even hold hands. They just talk. They laugh, drink water (and not beer at all). They are embarrassed, they bloom.

A similar picture is in Sri Lanka, where the main religion is not Islam, but Buddhism. Where there is only 1% of divorces. Where are families with many children who work hard and smile a lot. Where women wear stunningly beautiful sarees - in which femininity is striking. Long dresses, long skirts, closed tops.

India - with its Hinduism also has similar traditions. The same sarees, wound a little differently, silk skirts, silk blouses. And the same picture - there are practically no divorces. Large happy families.

This is so different from what I see in Russia! Rhinestones, sequins, inviting sexuality. Young guys who are very outspoken on the streets. I don't judge anyone. I myself was like that some time ago. Now I just have something to compare with.

Now I know that men can perceive me not only as a sexual object. But also as an interlocutor, come for advice. I no longer hear greasy compliments from merchants, but I receive respect. And I felt what it means to be a lady. This is a completely different feeling.

For what purpose do we choose clothes?

When we dress, we all want love. We want to be noticed, paid attention to us, loved. And we awaken desire in men. It is impossible to think about the soul of a half-naked girl.

I specifically asked several men - they confirmed my guess. What if in front of you is a beautiful and sexy dressed girl - the first thought is about having sex with her. And the second, third, forty-eighth - too. The only thing I want to know better is her body. It is very difficult to think when instincts start to work.

Attractive sexy dresses, neckline, mini-skirts, tight jeans … And after that, women are outraged that men only need sex. But on our "ad from above" the word "sex" is written in a huge font. And love and friendship are so small that you can't read it right away.

Eastern women are so different. I was wildly ashamed that I was without a headscarf. That the length of my dress is only to the knee. That I have it so tight. Next to them, I really felt naked and defenseless. And immediately I bought myself a floor-length dress in a free cut. Feminine and not tight.

And immediately it became easier. I felt freer and calmer. Although my dresses can hardly be called provocative. Sometimes they have a deep neckline or a narrow cut, but no more.

In all traditional cultures, women covered their heads. Until now, one can only enter an Orthodox church wearing a headscarf. And in some eastern countries, even tourists are forced to wear headscarves. What for? After all, a woman with open hair is much more attractive and sexier.

It turns out that this makes much more sense than it seems.

Why would a woman hide her beauty?

This question I most often hear when it comes to the frankness of outfits. But there are actually a number of reasons for this:

Oddly enough, but female beauty is finite. And in Vedic culture it is believed that the more male views a woman has collected, the more she wasted her beauty. So very often you can see how recognized sex symbols (women) age faster than others. And they have to make a lot of efforts to maintain their shape. To do various operations, injections and more.

All the beauty of a woman should belong to one man. It strengthens the relationship more than anything else. That is why Muslim women wear the burqa. There is a special chic in this - when, under the veil, a woman can see a bright flying dress. This dress is for one man only. And it will be pleasant and joyful for any man.

By flaunting ourselves, we leave no choice to men. Let's admit that we ourselves provoke them. We ourselves seduce them, tempt and provoke them. Not by your actions or thoughts. But simply by what we are wearing. Or not worn.

The most important thing is that we create a situation in which they only want sex from us. And then we cry and consider them goats. We create permanent temptations for men. For strangers' husbands. In such a world, it is difficult for them to remain faithful to their wives and girlfriends. Difficulty focusing on business and work. It is difficult to be creative and solve serious creative problems.

Of course, it's nice to like many men. Receive compliments, courtship, attention. But this is not the only way. Moreover, this method is not the safest and most effective one.

I look at oriental girls - and even the thought does not arise that someone from her may only need sex. There is so much dignity in her, so much purity and fidelity. Loyalty to traditions, loyalty to yourself and your family.

Our Russian girls also once wore sundresses and braids. And they attracted men not with their bare feet, but with the help of modesty and kindness. Chastity and charm. Are those days gone?

Sexuality and femininity are not the same thing

Tell me, is the Madonna and Child (not a singer) feminine? For me, this is the perfect image of femininity. That being said, is this image sexually attractive? More likely no than yes. And if you take the modern stage - for example, the singer Rihanna. She is defiantly and provocatively sexy. But is she feminine? In my understanding, no.

For some reason we put equals between these two different concepts. And we think that the more sexy we look, the more feminine we are. Only it doesn't work.

The man only recognizes one signal from you. Do you understand? Only one. Not the whole range that you are trying to express, but only the most important one. We try to correspond to the modern world, the wishes of men, and we write the word sex on our "sign over our heads". Big enough to be noticed. And then we write everything that we really want - relationships, love, family, children, for life. But only the largest written word is recognized. The small print in the postscript does not work (it would be better if this font did not work in the banking system:))

If you are dressed very sexy, then the response will be appropriate. Flirting, dating, seduction, sex. Yes, you will get a lot of attention, many men will want to contact you. But what kind of contact will it be?

If your first and most important signal is a serious relationship, then not every man will show a desire to communicate with you. After all, not everyone is ready for this, not everyone wants it. But those who responded have already passed the first round of elimination. And they are interested in you as a person, and not as a girl for a couple of nights.

Just let's go without fanaticism

Just do not misunderstand me. I’m not for everyone to wear a burqa tomorrow and give up swimsuits. After all, a bikini is sexy too.

In addition, if you wash off all your makeup tomorrow and put on a bag in order to immediately weed out all the unworthy, there is a great chance that you will not be noticed at all. In this bright world, where there are so many colors and temptations, you need to be able to catch your eyes.

But this can be done not only with the help of sexy clothes. You can find your own unique style, your colors. Its bright femininity. And to emphasize it. For example, long dresses are more feminine than sexy. But with the right style and color, you will not go unnoticed.

I wish you that when you dress, you know the answer to the question - why did you put it on and what you want to get in the end.

And I also dream of looking out of the window and seeing women in beautiful feminine dresses. Such is my simple dream.